pro-conversating: that’s when you think ahead of what you are gonna say to someone if they say this, then you’ll say that and already you have an argument, defense and slam dunk to put them in their place and of course, you win.
Just listen at the time it’s happening, try to have some empathy which shows you care about them, which totally disarms them. but go in knowing what your resources are, what you the real deal is and be prepared to lose. Perhaps you then make a spectacle of them and reveal their true colors. Or not. We’re all in the pains of growing up. God relieve me of being angry, this is a sick person, how can I be helpful.
Wise intention and skillful service need to be nourished by periods of quiet and prayer. Every great tradition includes some from of the Sabbath. In the West we inherited the blessing of the Christian and Jewish Sabbath. Muslims have Friday as their holy day, and likewise Hindus and Buddhists renew their vows of simplicity on full moon, new moon, and quarter moon days. When I was young, Massachusetts had Sabbath “Blue Laws” requiring all forms of business to stop on Sundays. But now, one generation later, we have twenty-four-hour supermarkets and twenty-four-hour banking, seven days a week; our consumer society has claimed the right to operate without constraint. This is a recipe for burnout.
A spirit of service to one another and to ourselves grows out of different soil- out of moments of remembering, moments of prayer and blessing. If we pay attention to the cycle of our breath and the beating of our heart, there is a tiny and necessary pause between each. To beat for our whole life, the heart must restore itself in the stillness before each new beat. Spiritual maturity also requires such periods of Sabbath, where we step out of commercial time into that which is timeless. Jack Kornfield
Sometimes, doing service work or donating clothes to an organization is the way out.
Played harp at the gratitude banquet last night:
Set list: Angel, by Sarah McLauchlin
Bird on a Wire, by Leonard Cohen
Gymnopedie, Satie, Gnoissienne, Satie
Concerto in B flat major, Handel
Danny Boy, Irish air
Sonata in B minor, Scarlatti, Sonata in D , Scarlatti
Stairway to Heaven, harp version
What a Wonderful World,
Quando men vo, Stand by Me,
The Impossible Dream from man of La Mancha
and some glisses.